The value of labor in romance

 All too often I see or read a romance in which the guy or gal gives up their career to be with the one they love. This is wrong if either or both are diminished by it. Man contributes to his fellow man by working. Talents are meant to be cultivated and shared for the good of the many and for financial well being. This doesn't mean looking for the highest paying job.

The days are over when the gal gives up her job to follow her man. That's sexism. And it's also true in reverse.

My rule: there should always be a balance achieved in which the hero and/or heroine retain their commitment to their fellow human beings (and dogs and cats, lol) in some way.

Example: in the UP! movie, Finding Normal, a doctor leaves her job in LA to get to her fiancee in NY to join his extremely lucrative practice. She gets stuck in Normal Louisiana, a small town who needs a doctor and the pay sucks. Okay, perhaps you know what happens. I'll just say Candice Cameron Bure (the actress) is practicing medicine, lol.

Balance your story.