Maybe it's a guy thing. I enjoy a romance in which either the hero or heroine start out looking for (or with) one person and end up with someone else (or perhaps both). The mystery is in who (he)she'll pick.
I'd like the names of romance novels which have this type of twist. Is it simply a compromise of values or an enlightenment. An enlightenment is easier to write (the hero/heroine discovers he/she has made an error in thinking). A compromise borders on breaking the rules of the romance writing game (the hero/heroine settles for a percieved less than what he/she wanted). Any examples would be appreciated.
Getting back to the lyrics above. You try to get what you want and then through some twist you get what you need. What the hell did Mick Jagger mean? This need and want they sing of might not be exclusive of each other. Our heroine could try to get the hero (her want) and discover he's not who she thought he was, but she gets what she needs anyway. There's any number of ways of playing this, but I need your help with good examples.
I'll offer one example: Linda Randall Wisdom wrote Free Spirits (1991). The heroine wants marriage to a very successful business man but changes direction to someone else about half way through the book.
In real life we sometimes want things that we don't get, but since we are all happy with writing for others (our need) we're doing very well, right?