Men, women and dance

Men and women look at dance and dancing differently. On this subject, there is plenty of variation, so this isn’t a hard and fast rule. Just be aware of these male tendencies when writing your hero.

1. Generally, at a dance, men will wait until the dance floor is full so that they won’t look like fools or they’ll blend in when enough men have joined the floor. The women will dance with each other, get things started and form the majority of dancers, at least in the beginning. There are cultural variations here (as in Greece).

2. Women will be attracted to men who dance, but will dance with anyone (if their toes are spared).

3. Men will be attracted to good-looking women.

4. Women dance for enjoyment more than men do.

5. Men dance with women with the hope of ‘more.’

6. Men see dance as a prelude to sex. Scientists see dance as an artsy way of mimicking sex, showing off one’s fertility.

7. Women see dance as a means to love or to fall in love, although men aren’t above being affected by the dance.

8. Both sexes see dance as a way of expressing their health, rhythm, balance, suppleness, speed, an ability to predict and react to the movements of their partners, and showing style. Of course, all this harkens back to the original dance outside the cave by the camp’s fire in which fertility was equated with all those physical abilities.

9. Women could have danced all night.

10. The men, at some point, would rather get under the covers with their partner. Of course, all this suggestive activity produces pheromones and this will lead to euphoria.

As I said in the beginning, dancing means different things, on a case-by-case basis, but it is likely the writer will want to know why the hero or heroine dances.

I Could Have Danced All Night, My Fair Lady, Audrey Hepburn, 1964

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