When someone says something like he or
she is a ‘ten’ or he/she is perfect, how do they know? Science answers this
question. The apple of the beholder’s eye is not a ten but rather exhibits the
ratio 1.618 all over their bodies including the face.
1.618… is called by many names, Phi, the
magic number, golden ratio, divine proportion, God’s number, chemistry, “it.”
Nerd alert: Say a line is 1.618 inches. Tag
it at the 1 inch mark. Science has discovered that 1 inch plus 0.618 inches is as
1 inch is to 0.618 inches. What? Take a look at the nautilus shell with its
constantly smaller shells (all of the same ratio) as an example. Or Audrey
Hepburn’s face. Or the hand (0.618) compared to the hand and forearm (1.618).
Or check out Leonardo Da Vinci’s studies.
Somehow people sense nature’s simple
design and admire or are attracted to it. Maybe it is in our DNA. No, stop. The
length of DNA to the width is 1.618.
You might say, what about Samoans where girth
is revered or the Kayan people with neck rings distorting their necks? All cultures,
when shown women with various hip/body proportions will pick the divine
proportion as the most desirable. Note they are not shown a woman who’s
original figure is hidden by weight.
What does this mean to the writer of
romance? If we can’t explain in some way why there is an initial attraction we
may have missed an opportunity. Of course, there is way more to picking a mate
than Godly perfection. There’s his/her heart, sense of humor, loving nature,
nurturing, etc. Also, a person who feels they are a “6” may try for another “6”
or try to get a “7.” Sometimes when two people meet there seems to be a nuclear
meltdown.
Still, how do we know what perfection is
if we don’t have a piece of God within us?
Also, important to us nerds, is Phi chemistry, biology or physics?
Bob, recently a family friend asked me to help him write a love note to his wife, to pick out a gift for her. They've been married more than 20 years! Here's what I told him. Women are many times appreciated for their obvious and external attributes and behaviors, so for me, a man who listens as though I were an equal and can see beyond my words to my true passions in life, that's the man for me, even if he resembles a gorgon.
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