Sunday, July 10, 2016
Let’s Talk About Your Hero
Who is he? A majority of men are not or only passingly interested in affairs of the heart, at least in books, movies and on TV. I’ve talked before about this dichotomy, but today, let’s go deeper.
A guy wants to love his mate, but does he really know how? He won’t participate in “chick” flics, true, but he will go through the motion of buying flowers, candy. He has been told to flatter a woman, open doors etc. Does he treasure her friendship; want to spend time with her? Is he a Renaissance man? Does he realize the beauty before him, whether it be physical or spiritual or both?
For a man, truly in love, his mate is an outrageous gift from God. He thinks of her, always. He plans to please her, to make her feel like a princess. He enjoys her humor, style, quirks, heart, empathy.
But men are socially driven to not let their guard down. Some men who are secure and thoughtful allow vulnerability. It is true that the best man is he who has a successful marriage and many males celebrate this through their actions. If you are writing a younger male or a man who scoffs over sickeningly sweet romances, you have your work cut out for you.
Guys don’t let our guard down because of fear. We must protect (the cave) and in standing on Maslow’s first rung, Survival, cannot easily grow.
Robin Williams and Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting, 1997
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