My guest today is a dear friend, I’ll call her
Allison, who’s looking for love in her fifties. She’s not a writer and because
of that I think she can offer comments that you all might find useful from the
aspect of getting a reality check. You know, the baby boomers are major and
more romances should be written about them. She uses an online dating service
to meet men, but has also met men the old-fashioned ways. Bumping into them.
I want to thank my chapter mates at RWASD for insisting I add black background to my cover lettering, because it "has to pop." They're right. See below:
Bob: What's different out there between guys and gals
looking for romance in their fifties?
Allison: I’m not so sure the guys I’ve been meeting
want a life partner. They put friendship, travel partner, casual partner,
serious relationship all in one sentence. So whatever you have to give they
will take. [Bob—It sounds like the guys that do this are casting a
wide net to catch more fish. But the smart fish should probably swim away,
because, as a guy, I see these fellows as very alright with just having a good
time, a one night stand, a fling etc. They’re lonely and could use a woman’s touch.]
Bob: What do you think of today’s dating scene?
Allison: I think dating on line is different than
30 years ago. Back then, what you see when you meet someone, is what you get.
Now people distort their perception of themselves on line. [This sounds like a
case of having time to prepare for an exam. I see her point.]
Bob: How
important is physical attraction?
Allison: Physical attraction is extremely
important to me, but you might not initially feel it. Often for me, physical
attraction comes over time, when you get to know someone, the time spent
together, and interests (bike riding, gym, hobbies, and morals and values).
Bob: What's your worse disaster on a date or dates?
Allison: I
had a guy say, “You said in your profile you work out six days a week, well you
don’t look like it. [I know Allison, she’s built like a Chargers’ Cheerleader.
She works out and it shows. That guy needed glasses. Allison: That guy could
use a lobotomy, liposuction and a dandruff shampoo. Bob: the shampoo might not
be necessary.]
Bob: Any disappointments?
Allison: Disappointments
would be people not staying true to who they are. Bart is someone I
dated for nearly a year, we were closer than close, me meeting his young
children and him meeting my family in L.A. I know it isn’t cool of him to
contact as I asked him not too, (because my heart is attached) Not to be mean.
[Bob: after they broke it off, he continues to write her even after she asked him
to stop. I read this guy as egocentric and showing a lack of respect for Allison as a human being. Bad news.] I don’t
know “WHY” he would care to (write)?? My experiences have been positive
9 out of 10 times. Conversation flows, they are usually very smart and
courteous and respectful, the only thing that I get discouraged about is how
long these men have been married. Ten years or less is not a good track record.
For the most part, The ones I choose are who they say they are.
Bob: Words
of wisdom?
Allison: I
have had many positive experiences with online dating and meeting men out and
about, etc. Just looking for a companion who likes the same things I do and
then the relationship grows from there.
Bob: Are you staying positive? Do you feel you'll find
somebody?
Allison: I do feel I will meet someone. I have twice,
they just didn’t last. I want for the rest of my life, not so sure men do…
[I don’t have to be a fortuneteller to know Allison will meet the man of her
dreams.]
Bob: You're a
great gal and any guy would be fortunate to share a life with you.
Thanks so much for the interview.
Some in media call this "the man in the street" interview.
Allison, please forgive me, your interview was great but I can't resist a little comic relief with this classic.
Steve Allen interviews Don Knotts (50 seconds).
Other Steve Allen "man in the street" interviews also feature Louis Nye &Tom Poston and can be found by choosing video in Bing or Google search. (or YouTube)Some in media call this "the man in the street" interview.
Allison, please forgive me, your interview was great but I can't resist a little comic relief with this classic.
Steve Allen interviews Don Knotts (50 seconds).
I want to thank my chapter mates at RWASD for insisting I add black background to my cover lettering, because it "has to pop." They're right. See below:
I'm so glad I'm not in the dating scene. Of course, it took me three tries before I found the perfect mate so there's that.
ReplyDeleteAge makes a difference in all this. Older guys in my opinion feel they just want fun as they have already done the marriage and kids thing. Older women are cautious and feel more vulnerable and worry about family opinions. It's not easy.
ReplyDeleteI believe people tend to describe themselves on-line as they wish they were, not as they are. But I also know quite a few people who have been successful finding someone through the internet. I'm so glad I'm well past the dating scene. .
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