Cultivating crushes for your health
I'll part with a story about a guy and gal, as told to me. More than ten years ago at a gym, she nearly fainted, first time in his presence. He was intrigued and ready to catch her. She said it never happened to her before, he was flattered. They shared a coffee, she was getting a divorce, he had a solid marriage. They became sweet friends for years until the day she could stand it no longer. No Matter how many relationships she went through she had fallen in love with him. He had always loved her (as a crush/friend). She left the gym to join another because she wanted more, but knew she had to move on. She finally found a guy to marry who could make her swoon and with whom she had so much more in common than her crush/love. So, was it better for this 'couple' never to have said anyhting or was it ridiculously impossible not to?
Crushes can happen at any age married or unmarried. Of
course, if you or your crush is married, it is not recommended to take those
silly thoughts out of your head and put them on the table over a latte.
But why have one, anyway?
Human beings may be the only animal on the planet
who creates impossible situations in their imaginations as a non-obvious way of
improving their ‘real’ lives. Know anyone who writes for a living?
Crushes can:
1. Help you lose weight when you imagine the day
your crush requests you take off your clothes and then dies of a heart attack.
1a. Lower your cholesterol, diminish bad or
excessive eating habits, and lengthen a healthy life.
2. Elevate your romantic needs, which can have a
positive effect on your partner (if you have one) or get you throw out of the
bedroom for being too horny.
3. Can develop a lasting friendship, especially in
the case of a mutual crush.
3a. Can become a backup plan in case you outlive your
partner. Healthy is the theme here: no murders, please. Remember how important
real love is to the heart and soul. (Imagine the day: you’re ninety, you look
up all your old crushes who are still living, sit down with them, discover you
really had nothing in common or that reality pales in comparison, so you keep
your eyes open for that next crush sure to come along but die with love in your
heart for all your heartfelt memories.
4. Nurture your heart, keep yourself younger and living
longer (so you can be disappointed—see 3a.).
The following is an Oscar winning short. It’s 14
minutes long, but well worth it, just like the amount of time you might spend fantasizing
about that very unspecial someone.
The Crush (2010)
I'll part with a story about a guy and gal, as told to me. More than ten years ago at a gym, she nearly fainted, first time in his presence. He was intrigued and ready to catch her. She said it never happened to her before, he was flattered. They shared a coffee, she was getting a divorce, he had a solid marriage. They became sweet friends for years until the day she could stand it no longer. No Matter how many relationships she went through she had fallen in love with him. He had always loved her (as a crush/friend). She left the gym to join another because she wanted more, but knew she had to move on. She finally found a guy to marry who could make her swoon and with whom she had so much more in common than her crush/love. So, was it better for this 'couple' never to have said anyhting or was it ridiculously impossible not to?
