Two suitors remain

Two guys are left on ABC’s The Bachelorette (finale on August 6).

There’s a good chance that Becca Kufrin will end up engaged to a guy with more isms than you’d think possible.

Becca, a women’s rights activist said of Garrett (one of the two men) that she’d educate him. This presumes she’s not just a friend, lover, fiancée but and educator.

You can’t change a man or can you? This is a worthy premise or trope for a romance novel. I remember Governor Wallace walking into a Black church and asking for forgiveness. It took him 30 years. With Garrett, I hope for Becca’s sake that it won’t take long. In our romance fiction, typical alpha males don’t sit for being educated by their women, none. I’m not sure if Garrett is alpha. He has been burnt in the past (a two-month marriage) and may seek direction. He wants this marriage to work and will likely try to change.

For those who don’t know: Garrett liked certain Instagram posts that made fun of Mexican children, women activists, LBGTQ people, and a post that said that the Parkland High schoolers who were marching for common-sense gun control were actors.

Nonetheless, you know me. I’m always hoping for a happy ending.

Also, in these days of rampant hatred, it is good to see a liberal woman reaching out. Can’t we all get along? Shouldn’t we all get along?

Women and Intuition

It is pretty much agreed by both men and women that women, on the average, are more intuitive. There is this whole brain thinking idea as opposed to men using straight line or logical thinking. Of course, we are all a mix of logic and intuition and to interfere with these two qualities, emotion.

I was surprised by the first episode of ABC’s The Bachelorette when Becca Kufrin, the bachelorette, was visited by the four former Bachelorettes. They pointed out that they all chose their fiancé/husband the first night, giving them a first impression rose. One of them suggested that the success rate for women was (much) higher than that of The Bachelor show also by ABC, and by the way, following the same format except with roles reversed. This is an understatement. I, being the ex-scientist / engineer, found the odds of the possible fifth first impression rose and man making it to an engagement/marriage astronomical and that women could be so much better at choosing a life partner than men. As I said, it is generally agreed that women are a bit better at intuition than men or at least they rely on it more.

I cannot conclude that this one example is scientifically sufficient to reach a conclusion. So, I’ll just enjoy the show.

But, get this, the show starts, men are arriving in limos. But not Garrett Yrigoyen. He drives up to the mansion in a mini-van stocked with car seats, baby wipes, etc. Naturally, he shows her. She’s smitten by his thoughtfulness. Later in the evening he teaches this outdoor girl, fly-fishing. Ho scores. He gets the first impression rose. Will he by the fifth in a row to marry?

Maybe? He apparently also arrived with baggage. He had been married years ago and then walked out after six months. He used to click on (liked) what he thought were funny pictures on the internet. Such as anti LGBTQ, a Mexican child about to be thrown over the wall by an American guard (staged), anti-feminist propaganda, etc. Oh, he’s a catch.

Since then he has deleted his online social media accounts and apologized. But, I’d like to know what lame-brain would in this day and age or any other, find these things funny, or for any other reason want to click “a Like.” I believe we either choose to hate or love.

Becca has asked her fans to keep an open mind and take the journey with her. I will take her up on it, and wish that she chooses wisely using her intuition and other gifts she so evidently has.