Ask a male author about your male character traits or thoughts.

Amazon links to my stories: Autumn Breeze, A More Perfect Union, Double Happiness, The Wolves of Sherwood Forest, Neanderthals and the Garden of Eden can be found down the right side of the blog. Another site very useful in categorizing books in their proper order is: https://www.booksradar.com/richard-rw/richard.html


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Sunday, March 6, 2022

Love is Blind

I found a show on Netflix called Love is Blind.

I enjoyed it from a philosophical point of view. If in meeting someone you are overpowered by physical attraction, do you not, at least for a while, ignore or fail to observe their compatibility with you? Some carry this on to marriage and wake up after it is too late. They get divorced, a messy and expensive enterprise that rips hearts.

On a minor note the show's producers must have encouraged the participants to toss around four-letter words like they were going out of style. i sincerely doubt that this represents the way people talk to each other.

The way it works: a bunch of men and women go on numerous dates in pods, separate rooms. They can't see each other. They only have words. Needless to say, this forces the two people in the pods to ask more serious questions than "my place or yours."

IMO, love is not blind but the technic brings people together who might not have given a second thought to the other upon meeting. They would have never talked except for courtesies like how are you, isn't the weather wonderful, got to love those (name a team). This doesn't circumvent natural selection because it is natural. Everything humans do is natural. And secondly, they have a chance to run for the hills if they are not physically attracted to their opposite (or even for other reasons).

Modern life is often shallow and fast-paced. It's our duty to slow down to appreciate the beauty in all things. Anyway, some of the proposals that come out of the show actually result in solid marriages. 2 out of 5. But that's not the point. The show is simply asking us to dig deeper before saying we are falling head over heals with someone. Falling implies losing control. Never diminish your ability to make kind-hearted and rational decisions. Then devote yourselves to that special someone.

Seven Types of love displayed in a romance novel

The ancient Greeks had a thing for love. in fact, they intellectualized everything. This made for amazing advances in civilization.

They categorized love:

1. Eros, sensual passion

2. Ludus, playful love

3. Philautia, self-love

4. Storge, parental love

5. Philia, deep friendship

6. Agape, love for everyone

7. Pragma, committed love

8. Minia, obsessive love

It's those Greeks again. Many scholars water this down to Eros, Agape, and Philos. For the purpose of writing any romance story, I believe that all three types must show up in the novel to make it a meaningful success.

Eros: erotic love or intimate love but according to Plato: Eros is the natural desire to seek beauty. He wrote, "he who loves the beautiful is called a lover because he partakes of it." Okay, this could be an excuse for jumping from bed to bed. But I see a man or woman feeling close or one to become part of that beauty.

Philia: Ideal love or brotherly love. (Philadelphia). Aristotle said that pone must feel love for themselves before they can love others. Plato theorized that the best philia blossoms out of eros. (your mate is your best friend.)

Agape: Universal love. A good current example are the strangers in Poland that are taking into their homes, Ukranians. Agape is something inside us that has love for all living things. There are those who hate ass a way of life. This is not only defective and destructive but a denial of purpose of life.

So what does this have to do with writing romance novels. It's the arcs or growth as human beings that your characters travel through that make your story complete. A story that only focuses on Eros is written in a vacuum. Like a true artist you may paint a picture of how your characters interact in this world and how these goals to be better at life change the way they are. And how about that prospective mate who requests change or challenges to bring out the best in both. And what of their friends? How do they react to events around them together or apart?

Today, it is not sufficient, IMO, to not show them reacting and pro-acting in this world.


Sunday, February 13, 2022

The Cute-Meeter

The Cute-Meeter

 

At Pennsylvania University, the head of the graduate department, Joseph Blough, called in his favorite TA, Candice Striper.

“I perused your proposal. You have got to be kidding, you can’t earn your PhD on such drivel.”

“But Professor Blough, it's ground never covered before. Think about the advance in human psychology, the breaking of myths. It could put PU on the map.”

Blough was somewhat swayed by the idea of trading integrity for economic gain. But Candice was all wrong on two counts. She shouldn’t become the subject of her own experiment and with her figure-skating figure, and being gorgeous, God forbid my wife would hear my thoughts, Chinese face, and silky raven hair down to her fine derriere. I have to stop.

“So, Candice, because of your beauty, I hope you don’t mind me stating the obvious, your little experiment will be ruined the moment you start.”

“Thank you, professor. That’s just it, the prettier I am the more likely this experiment will work.”

“That’s the problem.”

“I’ve tried hard to get somebody, anybody to help me.”

“Try again.”

Sunday, February 6, 2022

I've reached the end of the internet

 I may be changing direction in my writing. I have written award-winning romance novels and yet haven't sold that much. I don't care for the reasons why. It could be talent, marketing, whatever. I'm moving on.

My first novel Neanderthals and the Garden of Eden sold a ton (approx. 5000 copies) but the romances didn't get close. In spite of that the publisher The Wild Rose Press took me in and I wrote an important novel about racial hatred, Cinnamon & Sugar. It sold less than 500. BTW, there's only one race, the human race. The Nazis would like you to believe there are more than one. Don't buy into their propaganda.

I'm not giving up on writing. It's more like a hobby than a profession. But I have decided to write what I want no matter what it is instead of writing romance because I think it will sell.

So here's my projects that I have yet to pen or had abandoned:

The Girl With Seven Boyfriends (one for each day of the week). I'm on page 85. This one is too sexy for words. And I hesitate to put certain things my bad girl does into words. Perhaps I'll use a non de plume.

A children's book (my idea is top-secret). This should be fun and short. You know it takes way too long to write a novel.

I have an idea for a short story or novella. Anyway I'm not sure which project to do first.

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On another subject, I believe we are near the end of the pandemic and I want to say one thing about the foundation of many religions. The golden rule. This means that one should treat everybody with the love you would hope they would show you. In short, those who refuse masks are saying I don't care about you. Those who don't get vaccinated, much the same.

I know priests that say the same but oddly some priests seem to promote the opposite. I just listen to what Jesus said and follow it.

The good news is we may all soon go back to a world in which masks are not needed in general and vaccines become a matter of personal choice (just like the flu vaccine).

I know when I write these thoughts s I may lose readers but I never had that many to start with, lol.


Monday, January 10, 2022

My new book

 I have been in a funk and not blogging because my new book, The Chess Master, has to date only sold 5 copies. One reason is that I don't like marketing, but at least I should blog about it.



Click below to go to Amazon
The Chess Master

REVIEWS:

Cy Lakdawala, international master and at latest count author of 53 books on chess, wrote. “The Chess Master manages to capture the hearts, minds, and souls of chess players of all ratings. This is perhaps the best book of fiction on the subject of chess. I give it five stars. It should be in everybody’s library.”

Dr. Leroy Dubeck, former USCF President, and current USCF master, wrote. “The Chess Master reminds me of The Queen’s Gambit in that it follows the life of a genius girl, but that’s where it stops. It’s contemporary, more intense regarding chess (the author is a USCF master), and it doesn’t cut the story short. You will see how talent and inspired work lands the protagonist at the age of seventeen in a match for the world championship, and you will know who wins. This is a must-buy chess book.

The Story: Tayshia is turning six, but her daddy isn’t there to celebrate, and he never will be. At least she has her two sisters, brother, and mom. Yet, she’s not happy. Her daddy used to play chess with her, which she remembers for the many happy hours and his love. Like many six-year-olds, she enters a fantasy world with her daddy as her chess and life mentor. She’s brilliant and obsessed with making her daddy proud by becoming the best chess player she can be. Along the way, we see the family struggle without a father, husband. We also see Tayshia mature into a phenomenal chess player worthy of a match for the world chess championship. And you'll be with her when she plays that match.

A NOTE FROM THE AUTHORS

Sami Robinson, author of Broken Toy: “Bob, never having been a little black girl from a run-down neighborhood, needed my help. What we both didn’t count on was Tayshia’s genius being so overwhelming. But my friend had that down pat. You are going to love this girl.

Robert W Richard (Bob) also writes as RW Richard and won an award for the best romance of the year with Autumn Breeze. “Only chess players know how all-consuming the game is. In college, I spent most of my time at the chess club. Later in life and married, I sacrificed chess for my family life and a career as an engineer. No regrets, because now in semi-retirement, I get to live the life of a great player vicariously.”

The authors would appreciate your reviews. The authors rate this book good for general audiences PG.


Okay fans and friends. I feel better now...

Sunday, November 28, 2021

1. Men nurtured by their moms

I wonder what constitutes a fatal flaw. We’re writing. We’re told to introduce a fatal flaw. Well, don’t take that too literally unless you’re writing a tragedy or some fatalistic or nihilistic fare. No room for a romance with a happily ever after, right?

A man not loved and nurtured by his mother is nearly ruined IMO. If you have a situation like that, you’ll walk a minefield with at least two deep arcs. One arc over his mom and the other over being able to love someone in a mature way.

This problem is a great excuse to read case histories and studies on this subject. When done, try a man without a father figure or a father who didn’t love or nurture. The same goes for heroines.

It’s a rare child who can see he or she isn’t loved and decides he or she is of value and will grow up normally and be able to love. Because without examples, how will they be able to figure it out? Maybe Sponge Bob has something to say. No seriously, kids could learn from some TV character or later from some book or some great teacher how love works. Somewhere along the line, they’ll need to experience it.

Men, nurtured and loved by their moms, make better heroes or at least ones who are a little easier to write. There are plenty of other demons lurking to give your hero ‘fatal flaws.’ Try to save mom, she'd appreciate it.

No more wire hangers.

Sunday, November 14, 2021

Do men like Tomboys?

 All of us have attributes of both sexes in varying degrees. A Tomboy is often labeled as competitive, especially in sports. Or they might like to fix cars, lift weights, take to hammer and nails, etc.

I can only speak for myself this time because every man has a different opinion of who they are attracted, and why. I like women who are competitive in whatever they want to do. I don't find attractive heavy weight lifting by a woman because I find myself more attracted to the waif or athletic type.

I do want a woman to challenge and I firmly believe that men and women are equals.

This is why this season of The Bachelorette (ABC) intrigues me.

Michelle Young is the bachelorette and she's a Tomboy. In high school, she finished in second place all-state basketball. This is where her urge to excel manifests itself. She was a kindergarten teacher and now teaches fifth-grade. She, at first, refused ABC's gig, because she didn't want to abandon her 'kids.' ABC rearranged the schedule to accommodate her.

She's not the kind of Tomboy who always wants to top a male, is in Doris Day's portrayal in Annie Get Your Gun. No, Michelle understands that collaboration should lead to love but don't challenge her in basketball.

In the second episode, she had her men seated in small schoolroom desks and quizzed them. Some were god awful in arithmetic, lol, and her kid helpers weren't afraid to point it out.

Michelle's fear is not being seen [as a person or as a woman]. She grew up the only bi-racial girl and didn't get asked out on dates. [Sometimes missing a part of oneself can lead to excellence in another area as compensation, hence basketball.]

Michelle is lovely and loving and would make any man a good partner.